Being primary?
May. 5th, 2002 12:37 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
k_crowI spent Friday night being scared out of my mind.
Why? Because of seeing a post by one of my beloveds, reading it, and immediately going, "No, not talking about me. Quit assuming everything's about you, doofus." Then I found out this afternoon that I was the person being talked about.
The thing that scared me most, had me the most unnerved and feeling like the floor just dropped out from under me was where my beloved was talking about me as the "other...to be honest...primary partner" of one of their partners. Immediate denial on my part, AM NOT! Followed by the realization of, okay, by the definitions my husband and I use for primary, I'm correct. By our definition, primary is someone I'm living with, sharing financial and other mundane responsibilities with, as well as having a high degree of emotional connection and personal committment to the relationship.
So, how do you define your primary relationships? If you use a hierarchical system at all?
Why? Because of seeing a post by one of my beloveds, reading it, and immediately going, "No, not talking about me. Quit assuming everything's about you, doofus." Then I found out this afternoon that I was the person being talked about.
The thing that scared me most, had me the most unnerved and feeling like the floor just dropped out from under me was where my beloved was talking about me as the "other...to be honest...primary partner" of one of their partners. Immediate denial on my part, AM NOT! Followed by the realization of, okay, by the definitions my husband and I use for primary, I'm correct. By our definition, primary is someone I'm living with, sharing financial and other mundane responsibilities with, as well as having a high degree of emotional connection and personal committment to the relationship.
So, how do you define your primary relationships? If you use a hierarchical system at all?
