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Yesterday, there was amazing time spent with Sar after work.

Then seeing the new Star Trek movie. Non-spoilery reaction: "ZOMG, GO SEE THIS!!!"

Then there was heading to the pub for nibbles afterwards: Bambi on a stick, and crisps for Runnerwolf and I. Also, while she was out talking on her cell phone to her mom, I was chatting with our other friends, and the waitress insisted on seeing my ID.

"But.. I'm just having water."

"I need to make sure you're old enough to be in here, luv."

*cue me collapsing into helpless giggles while trying to retrieve my ID*

She looked briefly at it, blinked, and asked if I was actually in my 30's.

"I'll be 33 next month," I replied.

"Damn, I wouldn't've placed you a day over 26."

Moment of sheer win. =)
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Poem )
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So, I've got one person on my friends list who is participating in National Poetry Writing Month. This has been making me think... I haven't been writing poems much, but they used to be my major creative expression.

I keep feeling vaguely envious of my creative friends and acquaintances, and lord knows there are many of them. So, I decided I'm going to try writing one poem a day for the next month. I make no promises about quality, but if you are interested in seeing them, I'll be adding a tag for napowrimo, and placing them behind cut-tags. Prompts and kind words appreciated. Criticism can wait for later when I'm not just trying to get back in touch with my creative side. Thank you.
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If I had to choose an overall theme for this collection of stories, I’d have to say, the unexpected. It’s an amazingly diverse group of stories, and each one plays with expectations in one way or another and turns them on their collective heads.

Below the cut, I wrote short thoughts about each of the stories. I didn't include thoughts about the songs, because I've loved them for long enough that I don't have anything simple to say about them. :)

Here there be SPOILERS! )
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Yesterday was just amazing. The first group of people here to help arrived at 10:45am, and we finished up getting everything packed into boxes sometime around 6-7pm. Then there was ferrying everything out to [livejournal.com profile] damiana_swan and [livejournal.com profile] satyrblade's place, in two different runs.

I didn't get back home until 1:45am, but that was more due to awesome conversations and hanging out than anything else.

I'll see if I can remember everyone who was here. My apologies in advance if I miss anyone.
[livejournal.com profile] innowen, [livejournal.com profile] mutantenemy, [livejournal.com profile] kenderbunny, [livejournal.com profile] zaratyst, [livejournal.com profile] silenceleigh, [livejournal.com profile] mholmesiv, [livejournal.com profile] violindaine, [livejournal.com profile] chinchillagirl, LJ-less R, [livejournal.com profile] technoshaman, [livejournal.com profile] lisakit, [livejournal.com profile] damiana_swan, [livejournal.com profile] satyrblade, [livejournal.com profile] tereshkova2001, [livejournal.com profile] dianthus, [livejournal.com profile] libraryraven, [livejournal.com profile] tanuki_green, [livejournal.com profile] dustin_00.

Thank you, all of you, for your help, your laughter, the many quotable quotes that I had absolutely no brain to record, and so much more. "Many hands make light work." And you made the work of all of that very light and joyous for me. Especial thanks for the care you took of our house while you were here, and to those who helped clean up both during and after.

I can't emphasize enough to anyone reading this that you *REALLY* would enjoy this book. Ravens in the Library is made of magic and love and the incredibly hard work of many, many caring people.

PSA.

Mar. 13th, 2009 09:47 am
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So, our internet at Gestalt is currently NOT WORKING. I *think* this will be fixed by sometime on Saturday, but I'm not sure. I will only have reliable 'net access through about 3pm today. If you want to make any plans with me, or let me know about something for this weekend, please either comment here *BEFORE* 3pm today, or call my cell phone. I will screen comments on this post. Thanks!
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I believe in true love, in the sense that I can love someone truly and deeply, and be loved that way by them in return. That connection can deepen and grow and change and become a richer and fuller thing over time. I do not believe in "one-true-love". I've already had at least 2 relationships that are categorized in my head as "true love". Both have helped me to be the person I am today, though one was much more destructive for me when it ended.

That's the one that has me believe in love at first sight. I'd talked with this person online for 2 weeks, but when we met face-to-face for the first time, I felt like I'd been struck by a bolt of lightning. I'd made a strong connection with him when chatting online too, but it was nothing compared to what I felt when we first laid eyes on each other.

For almost all of my other relationships, there hasn't really been love at first sight. There has been a sense of connection, a kinship, a sharing, but not love. Sometimes love follows for me after I dream about a person. Sometimes, it's just seeing them in a different way, maybe *really* seeing them when they've just been a background presence in my life up til then.

"Love defines its boundaries, with limitless shapes and countless forms..." - Gaia Consort. So too does falling in love. It can happen in so many ways, from attraction and crush, to love-at-first-sight, to gentle growing together and realization after years of friendship, to sudden catalyst-shifts like a supersaturated solution instantly crystalizing. These days, I don't want to idealize any particular form of love, or any particular way of finding love. I want to feel joy in any form that comes my way.
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I first started hearing about RaceFail 2009 through posts from [livejournal.com profile] rosefox, and seeing other links about it through [livejournal.com profile] shadesong. I've barely dipped my toe in, as far as the number of posts there are to read. [livejournal.com profile] dianthus has also posted links, and mentioned seeing very little on her friends list about this as well.

My silence on the matter up until this point has been composed of two pieces: awareness of how little I know when it comes to facing and discussing racism, and fear of doing it wrong.

The home I grew up in included the adults around me using racist terms and slurs. I've excused this in the past as, Oh, my father is an equal opportunity racist, because he uses slur words for everyone, including the race/culture/gender/etc he identifies as. I work to not repeat those words, and I work to be aware, but I know there are vast gaps in my knowledge base.

I hate confrontation, and will go out of my way to avoid it. This ties into the fear that if I get talking about this wrong, then I'll be confronted about it.

However, i hate being ignorant and letting fear rule me more than anything else. So I have been reading posts on RaceFail itself, when and as I can. Beyond that, I've been focusing on reading and thinking about various Racism 101 articles and posts that people have been linking to. It's my responsibility to educate myself, and I want to share what I've been finding with my friends list. I will periodically be updating this post with other links that speak to me.

The first link is White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack by Peggy McIntosh. It gave me a good place to start examining what privilege means, how it is used in discussions on racism. It made me start thinking about and really seeing some of the ways that I am privileged.

The second is IBARW: Your Science Fiction Twin by [livejournal.com profile] rydra_wong. This one is an excellent thought experiment for taking a deeper and more personal look at what I face as a privileged person.

The third is "Check my what?" On privilege and what we can do about it by Andrea Rubenstein. I'd almost call this one a 102, and highly recommend you look at the first one I linked to before this one. It's an excellent resource and is helping me wrap my head around not only more of my blind spots on racism and ways I could talk about it, but how to actually discuss sexism with Sar. (We've tried, it goes badly, despite both of us identifying as feminist in our outlooks.)

I'm willing to learn, and I'm willing to get this wrong, and to keep trying.
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